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#268. Before I go on podcast-sabbatical, I’m leaving you with an assignment: your Q4 agenda.This isn’t a winter arc, a life reset, or a list of impossible habits to master before January; it’s 20 worthwhile things to do with the last few months of the year. Think: getting your money and digital life in order, hosting people you love, learning a forever dish, starting something new, building a personal archive, doing something intimidating, and finally dealing with the things you’ve been putting off.It’s a mix of life admin, personal development, fun, and a little seasonal maintenance — so you can finish the year feeling like you actually lived, not just survived, the holiday chaos.Grab your Notes app and get started! I’ll see you in 2027. 🤍 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:IM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW and use…

#267. This week, we’re talking about three ideas making my life materially better (none of them are for sale). Satisficing, raising my uncertainty threshold, and creating as a response to over-thinking. BTW– next week’s episode is my last episode before a fall break! FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.comRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedWayfair: Head to Wayfair.com to shop all things homePeloton: Let yourself run Explore the new Peloton Tread Flex at onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#266. In this installment of ASK P, we’re hearing from listeners about surprise breakups, pending breakups, adapting to life post-college, and losing your virginity in your 20s. This is the last ASK P of 2026 — be back in 2027! FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#265. I’m back with a quarterly favorites episode, this time helping you achieve your coziest fall ever. We’re starting with style– think investment pieces, trends, where to shop– moving on to beauty favorites, home decor swaps, what I’m making in the kitchen, fall rituals, and more.SHOP FALL FAVORITES: Style Favorites: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/1094536 Beauty, Home, Etc Favorites: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/7789780 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#264. Unfortunately, summer is coming to an end (though I'm not ready to admit it). Nonetheless, we have a lot to catch up on. I'm going through the whole summer — France, Texas, Joe's season, Los Angeles, Georgetown, the National Security Summit — plus what this fall looks like heading into the hardest course of my program. I also have some news about the show.FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#263. Everyone's talking about the oxytocin menu, so this week I'm building mine — with a very honest look at what the research actually supports. Built like the dopamine menu, this episode includes Oxytocin appetizers through specials: the 20-second hug, the long phone call, the standing weekly thing. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#262. We’re talking about the realities of Beauty Maxxing, the good & the bad, with Caroline Stern. In this episode, we are sharing procedures we’ve undergone, what we regret, and touch on the emotional side of beauty maxxing and the desire to change yourself. How far is too far? What is worth the price? Where does one draw the line? All in this episode of Note to Self. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/paytonWoo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELF. Coyuchi: Visit coyuchi.com/notetoself for 15% off your first purchase of the most comfortable bedding you’ll ever own (exclusions apply)Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

#261. Kristen went on a date with her task rabbit. Emon can’t stop talking about 4d movies and her nemesis from 2nd grade. Your favorite girls from the now-defunct 3 Way podcast are back on the mic for a few very important life updates. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsor:ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or more See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#260. The men are not alright in today’s installment of ASK P. We’re talking about relationships, post-college life, guy friends & beyond this week. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#259. A re-release of a favorite, Things I Left Behind to Gain Peace, and some of these may be rather controversial. In every era of my life, whenever I notice I’m a little on-edge, I realize I’m more often in need of releasing what doesn’t suit me rather than adding to my life. What are you releasing in this era? FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/paytonResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8 Health: Go toIM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code notetoself for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your orderLola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code NOTETOSELF at checkout.…

#258. Maddy has been one of my favorite people to follow on socials for years, so when I found out we were crossing paths in Los Angeles, I had to have her on NTS. We’re chatting about her fresh (somewhat traumatizing?) start in LA, the parts of going viral nobody posts about, why we’ve both decided we need significantly more whimsy, our correct opinions, and so much more. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Resortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order.Opill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as OpillRula: Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality…

#257. Why is the party girl suddenly everywhere again? This week I trace the shift from clean girl and tradwife aesthetics to a messier, freer moment — the culture, the politics, the history of partying through hard times — plus the party girl commandments and my hoe theory. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#256. I'm sitting down with brand strategist, angel investor, and Material Interest writer Kira Mackenzie Jackson to talk about building credibility and wealth when your career doesn't follow a straight line. We get into following a "random" interest until it becomes real expertise, the entry-level truth about angel investing, and Kira's rule for balancing consistency with the innovation that keeps you feeling alive — plus honest talk on motherhood and building an ambitious career that still leaves room for a life. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreOpill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as OpillTumble: Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/NOTETOSELF…

#255. Am I slowly turning into my mother? I sat down with genetic counselor Natalie Samson to figure out how much of who we are is actually written in our DNA — and how much we get to choose. We get into inheritance, the traits that surprise you, and why your genes are a starting point, not a life sentence. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8 Health: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

#254. This week's ASK P tackles the questions you've been scared to ask out loud — navigating friendship breakups and having no close friends in your 20s, spending your birthday alone, advocating for your needs in the bedroom, walking away from a situationship, and moving to a big city on your own. It's a little tough love, a lot of validation, and a reminder that you're allowed to want more. Send me your own ASK P questions using the link below. 🤍 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsResortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreOlive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first SystemRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and…

#253. My best friend, Kristen Ritchie, has one of those jobs everyone's curious about and nobody really understands: she's a celebrity stylist— and she's annoyingly private about all of it. So I made her explain herself. We get into what a day on set actually looks like, how she built a career by leaning on her friends and saying no to almost everything, and why she'd rather let the work speak than post about it. Plus a proper summer style Q&A: the staples, the sneakers, and how to actually survive business casual. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Square: Right now, listeners can get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/notetoselfQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

#252. I’m mourning the loss of me… but, like, in a good way? In this episode, we are ending over a year of internal personal chaos with realizations about growth, releasing old versions of self, and stepping into a new phase of life. This episode is very much giving *classic* NTS, and for that, we are thankful. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Square: Right now, listeners can get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/notetoselfResortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsProduced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#251. Everyone’s favorite seasonal series – summer favorites! I’ve gathered a long list of summertime favorites, from skincare & makeup to most-listened-to podcasts and perspective-changing Substack articles. I’ll link everything linkable on ShopMy, of course. XxShopMy links: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/5876064 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Note to Self: code NOTETOSELF at IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELFOlive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first System See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#250. In today’s ASK P, we are discussing mostly relationship-related topics, with a little glow-up note to lighten the mood. Listeners sent in sensitive topics, like “am I dating his potential or supporting him through a period of growth?,” non-existent sex lives, and sacrifices in closing the distance gap in a relationship.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and…

#249. If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself in a season of constant change, this one’s for you. I’m sharing a few things that are actually keeping me grounded right now — from the simplest possible routine to why having a responsibility (even a four-legged one) might be the most stabilizing thing in your life. Consider this your permission slip to stop waiting for things to calm down before you start feeling like yourself again.The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column:…

#248. Solo travel doesn't have to mean a flight, a passport, or a packed itinerary — it just has to be yours. I'm breaking down exactly how to craft the perfect solo weekend “away,” whether that's a staycation, a short drive, or anywhere in between, plus the must-haves that make it worth it on any budget. This is your sign to book a solo weekend sabbatical asap. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and…

#247. Social media gets a bad reputation — and usually earns it. But this week, I make the case for the other side: what happens when you curate your feed like a curriculum and actually pay attention. Five ideas worth stealing, from the people worth following. The source content: Reality Disruption: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8S6oa/Dealing with Uncertainty without Rumination: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8UrtQ/Chasing Failure: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8A2HK/ 5 No’s a Week: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p89WNb/Joe Dispenza Meditation Review: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8XPeG/Play The Game By Your Rules: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8p8qQ8Q/ FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returnsPeloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and…

#246. Jaci Marie and Chelsey Jade of What We Said came prepared — and left me feeling like I actually might be too. We covered trimester zero prep, the surprising things motherhood teaches you about productivity and identity, and the parts of yourself that are absolutely worth protecting. The motherhood conversation every woman deserves to have before she needs it. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returnsIM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order.Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#245. In this installment of ASK P, listeners are asking questions about age gap relationships, making an international move, the positive side of getting older, and the push and pull of situationships. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedIM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order.Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#244. 3 Way Pod is taking over Note to Self in this chatty episode for the girls. Kristen is sharing how to manifest abundance and stay lucky (hint: it’s removing men from your life), Emon is asking very Emon questions, and the girls descend into chaos by the end of the episode (probably from the many beverages consumed before and during recording). Happy 3 Way day! FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Free People: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#243. I’m going back to school! In this episode, we are discussing my choice to go back to school in my early 30s– the why, the what, the what happens next, and what to do when you find yourself in an era of bad luck. Consider this a bit of a life update and release of the negative energy I’ve been accidentally absorbing for the last 2 weeks. It’s a spoken evil eye of sorts. Then, we’re answering listener questions from recent Instagram Q&As. Overall, a very chatty, girly episode. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way DayFree People: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#242. This week I’m sitting down with my friend Alexa for an honest conversation about what it actually takes to transform your life. Alexa shares how losing her grandfather sent her into one of the darkest periods of her life — and how she came out the other side genuinely the best version of herself.We get into body positivity, manifestation, and what the process of rebuilding really looks like when you’re starting from the bottom. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Free People: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gearIM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/NOTETOSELF and use code NOTETOSELF for aFree Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your orderLola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code [NOTETOSELF] at checkout. Experience…

#241. Megan Roup is the founder of The Sculpt Society and one of the most sought-after celebrity trainers in the country. In this episode, we get into training through pregnancy & post-partum, the undeniable link between fitness and mental health, and what it really looks like to build a business while raising children. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping and365-day returnsRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#240. Curation gets talked about like it's an aesthetic practice — a considered wardrobe, a beautiful home, a feed that looks a certain way. But the version I have been sitting with lately goes deeper than that. In this episode, I make the case that a truly curated life isn't built for presentation; it's built for self-knowledge. The things you keep, the rituals you protect, the choices you make when no one is watching — they aren't a mood board. They’re part of a larger portrait. This is about learning to tell the difference, and how fun life can become when you do. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Lola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code NOTETOSELF at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola BlanketFree People Movement: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop…

#239. We've been handed every framework imaginable for navigating love — the checklists, the red flags, the attachment style deep dives. And somehow we're still confused. Because the problem was never information. It was nerve. This week on Ask P, we're getting into the questions you actually sent — two crushes in the same friend group, holding your standards after a great relationship ends, rebuilding trust after a breakup, the name change debate, and how to show up for a friend who keeps choosing someone wrong for her. This one is for every woman who already knows the answer and just needs permission to trust it.SHOP THE EPISODE: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Free People Movement: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gearWayfair:…

#238. My spring favorites are here — beauty, fashion, tech, rituals, TV, people worth following, and a few random things I can't stop talking about. This one's a proper list episode: personal, specific, and full of things that have actually been making my life better lately. Consider this your permission to add to cart.SHOP THE EPISODE: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Free People Movement: Visit fpmovement.com to shop their full line of activewear and workout gearNuuly: That’s nuuly.com and code NOTETOSELF for $28 off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#237. YOU’RE INVITED. Because I’ve documented my love life on NTS since my now-husband and I met– from our early dating days, to moving in together & baseball craziness, to breaking up and not speaking for a year (lol), to getting back together and now tying the knot– it feels right to walk you through our wedding weekend in vivid detail. As usual, I’m getting extremely candid about my experience planning, pre-wedding prep, what went right (& what went wrong) on our wedding day, and the early days of marriage. Thank you for being here to witness our little love story! We love you. xxFOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go.Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+at onepeloton.comQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy…

#236. I’m sitting down with content creator Greta Louise Tomé for a conversation that covers all the things your group chat has been debating. They get into the real rules around moving in together, why your community matters more than you think when it comes to baby timing, and why "what's your Plan B?" is a question worth retiring for good. Plus — Greta shares her philosophy on being sexy for yourself, and why a little creativity might be the most feminine thing you can do.FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8Sponsors:RW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todayCaraway: Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchaseRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedNuuly: That’s nuuly.com and code NOTETOSELF for $28 off your first month See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California…

#235. In this month’s installment of ASK P, we are tackling listener questions on topics like romantic relationships, to friendships, to knowing ourselves. What do I do when my life feels too boring? Should I leave my relationship due to incompatibility? When should I exit the friendship? Listen to ASK P on Note to Self every month, and write in your own Qs (anonymously) via the link below. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Nowadays: Visit trynowadays.com/NOTETOSELF to get30 percent off your orderPeloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go.Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+at onepeloton.comWayfair: Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things homeQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy…

#234. Talia Hubble has a theory: when life falls apart, you set the table. The content creator and hostess extraordinaire joins Payton for a conversation about her recent home renovation, navigating a breakup in her thirties, and why her answer to heartbreak was to invite everyone she loves over for dinner. Talia talks about building a life split between New York City and her Rhode Island cottage, the way nesting became her love language during a hard season, and how intentional hosting became her most powerful form of self-care. This one is for the woman who is learning that community isn't just something you find,It's something you create, one dinner party at a time. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Go to onepeloton.comRW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todayNuuly: Go to nuuly.com and enter the…

#233:In a season that glorifies romantic love, this episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever build is the one you have with yourself. We’re talking about falling in love with yourself in ways that are both romantic and psychologically grounded — from small rituals that make you feel cared for to the science of self-trust and self-compassion. Whether you’re single or deeply partnered, this is your invitation to become someone you feel safe, steady, and proud to be.FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Go to onepeloton.comCaraway: Visit Carawayhome.com/NTS to take an additional 10% off your next purchaseQuince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

#232. Brittany Ball joins Payton to unpack what it really looks like to choose yourself over and over again through life’s biggest transitions. They talk about young motherhood, navigating divorce, co-parenting in a non-traditional dynamic, and finding love again without losing yourself in the process. This episode is a reminder that trusting your inner knowing can open doors to a life more honest, expansive, and aligned than the one you were “supposed” to live. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSponsors:RW Knudsen: Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store todayRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#231. This episode is a candid life update and a values-driven conversation about navigating the current U.S. political climate as a woman who cares deeply but needs to take small moments for herself. We talk about boundaries, nervous system care, and how to stay clear-headed, informed, and aligned. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Go to onepeloton.comNowadays: Visit trynowadays.com/NOTETOSELF to get 20% off your order See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#230. In this Ask P episode of Note to Self, Payton answers listener questions about navigating life’s in-between seasons — from fresh breakups and New Year resets to long-term relationship “ebbs,” family dynamics, friendship loss, and early dating red flags. This episode explores how to move through heartbreak while staying hopeful, maintain independence inside committed relationships, and set boundaries with parents as an adult. Payton also shares her perspective on New Year’s resolutions that actually stick, staying motivated during winter, and how to find peace when a friendship ends without closure. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and rebuilding, recalibrating, or quietly starting over, this episode offers grounded advice and permission to take your time. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Peloton: Go to onepeloton.com R.W…

#229. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel fully present, this episode is for you. We break down why getting out of your head isn’t a mindset shift but a nervous system one, and how embodiment creates calm, confidence, and connection. Think of this as a gentle invitation back into your body — and back into yourself. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returnsR.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#228. Welcome to the 2026 toolkit—a curated collection of what's working, what's worth it, and what creates the infrastructure for an intentional life. This isn't about perfection or having it all figured out; it's about the specific tools, rituals, and systems that help you show up as a better version of yourself. Your good life starts with what you choose to let in. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedR.W Knudsen: With R.W.Knudsen, krush 100% of your day—morning, afternoon, evening and all the moments in between—with 100% juice and no added sugar. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#227. January isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about editing what already exists. This week, we’re talking about the art of curation: the rituals worth protecting, the urgency worth releasing, and the one thing you’re building just for you. Welcome to The Annual Edit. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELF See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#226. This isn’t about resolutions—it’s about getting clear on the life you’re calling in. We’re walking through journal prompts for work, relationships, wellness, finances, and the aesthetic of your life so you can dream your way into 2026 with intention. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFJoyrise: Go to Joyrise.com and use code NOTETOSELF for15% off plus free shipping nationwideQuince: Go to quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#225. This year brought some of the most incredible conversations with founders, creators, and women building lives on their own terms - and I’m breaking down the biggest lessons that stuck with me. From building sustainable routines to redefining success, these are the notes from my Note to Self alumni that changed how I think about intentional living. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Visit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFJoyrise: Go to Joyrise.com and use code NOTETOSELF for15% off plus free shipping nationwideQuince: Go to…

#224. In this Ask P episode, I’m answering four of your questions to close out the year: how to audit yourself honestly without self-destruction, what I’d tell my 21-year-old self about timelines and dating, how to stay grounded while building your life in your twenties, and the framework Joe and I use for our annual partnership check-in. We’re talking about growth with grace, trusting your own timeline, protecting what matters, and making sure you’re building a life—not just performing one. Consider this your end-of-year toolkit for staying intentional, aligned, and honest with yourself as you head into 2026. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Visit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use…

#223. This year was simultaneously the best and worst of my life, and I need to talk about it before we close out 2025. I got married and made a home, but I also fell apart—moved twice, worked through emotional exhaustion, developed a bitterness I didn't recognize, and met parts of myself I didn't want to meet. If you're ending this year feeling overwhelmed from the weight of it all, like you can't wrap it up neatly before January 1st, this one's for you. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Chase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safeVisit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off…

#222. In a very special 222 episode of NTS, we’re catching up just 48 hours after our wedding day from an airport hotel on the way to our honeymoon destination. A few things about my wedding weekend definitely surprised me, a few terrified me, and a few made me more emotional than I anticipated. Initial marriage thoughts, sprinting down the aisle & some notes from Joe included in this episode. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/notetoselfpod-podcastChase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safeVisit 47brand.com to shop best sellers and new arrivalsProduced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at…

#221. Wedding week is here! Today we’re chatting candidly about what I’m looking forward to, what I’m opting out of, what’s making me nervous, and more. This is a casual, chatty episode, especially for those of you who have been on the journey to this point with me for years. Love u! xx FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:Canopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Woo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFQuince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsFace Foundrie: Visit facefoundrie.com and use code NTS at checkout for 20% off your first serviceChase: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams…

#220. Let’s talk about gifts that actually feel good to give and receive. I’m breaking down my ultimate gift guide by category: for her, for him, under $100, and last-minute saves that still feel intentional. Consider this your permission to skip the stress and give gifts that land. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.comCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase.Rula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedWoo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELFProduced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at…

#219. Your early thirties have a way of showing you what’s worth carrying and what you’ve been holding onto out of habit, fear, or someone else’s expectations. In this episode, I’m walking through the things I’ve intentionally left behind to create more peace in my everyday life – from other people’s definitions of success to the exhausting need to have it all together. Consider this your permission slip to put down what’s weighing you down, because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply stop doing what never served you in the first place.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Listen to She’s So Lucky wherever you get your podcasts and follow Les at @lesalfred and @shessoluckypod for more. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Episode Sponsors:Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at…